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25th Jul 2023

34. How to Stop 'Shoulding' & Gaslighting Yourself

You may have felt like a victim to gaslighting...but have you considered that you might gaslight yourself? Or that you "should" yourself? Immense guilt comes from both of those behaviors. We talk about how to swap those behaviors + what you can *release* that isn't serving you; for example: releasing the urge to 'keep the peace' or make sure others are happy.

Journal Prompts:

  1. When & what do you say when you "should" yourself? Are there any patterns?
  2. What are some ways you could be gaslighting yourself?
  3. If it's sticking with me, it must be a trigger. Where do I need to heal? What actions can I take? [The Breakthrough Blueprint can help with this!]
  4. What "weights" are you carrying? What mantra can you create to help you loosen the grip & release it?

RESOURCES:

Learn more & apply for the 6-week Recovery Room:  http://www.samanthapenkoff.com/assessments/2147758415

*Free* Breakthrough Blueprint: http://www.samanthapenkoff.com/offers/sCWKRy5E/checkout

More journal resources: www.samanthapenkoff.com/podcast

Instagram account with the great posts about:
- shoulding - http://www.instagram.com/p/CdV7joCONfC/
- gaslighting - http://www.instagram.com/p/Cf9MSWiOkqB/
- releasing - http://www.instagram.com/p/CdV7joCONfC/ 

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Beyond Awareness: Closing the Gap Between Knowing and Doing
Closing the Gap Between Knowing and Doing
Beyond Awareness (formerly Journal Entries) is for successful women in leadership and business who know exactly what they need to do but can't make themselves do it.

You know you need to prioritize yourself, delegate more, set boundaries, stop bringing work home. You've tried therapy, coaching, retreats. You know the solution - but you either can't follow through, or when you DO, it doesn't stick.

Host Samantha Hawley helps business owners and executives earning $100k+ excavate the root beliefs underneath the execution gap. Why do you keep not doing the thing? Why doesn't it feel better when you do? Using strategic journaling and emotional excavation, we go beyond awareness into why you're actually stuck in the pattern.

This isn't about more tactics or tips. This is about understanding why awareness isn't enough and what actually needs to shift for you to change.

You'll hear about: decision fatigue, why you can't prioritize yourself, nervous system regulation, being present with your kids, root cause of overwhelm, why boundaries don't stick, self-sabotage patterns, and how your internal state impacts everything.

Perfect for: Female CFOs, VPs, directors, executives, business owners, and women in leadership who are tired of knowing what's wrong but not being able to change it.
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